A friend of mine and I were catching up with one another via phone since we haven't gotten a chance to hang out in a few months. With life getting so busy and our schedules conflicting, we settled for a brief chat during our lunch. My friend proceeded to fill me in on her dating life and shared that she is currently dating 3 different men. She described each man's character, sent me photos so I could get a clear visual, and also wanted my feedback on the gentlemen. We discussed potential pros and cons of each guy and it's understood that she is going to continue her dating journey and enjoy life while doing so.
I always found dating fascinating. Why do you ask? Well... I don't know how to date. I think back on my single days and I realize I've never really dated anyone. This was how my interaction with a man I was interested in went: I see you, I like you, we are in a relationship. Even my husband now, we became exclusive after the first day that we exchanged numbers (crazy I know). I can't wrap my head around consistently spending time with more than one man and not knowing who I ultimately want to be with.
Some may reason that dating multiple people speeds up the process of finding "the one", Mr. or Ms Right. But then again, isn't it a possibility that it could prolong the process? If the woman isn't exclusive and neither is the man, wouldn't that make deciding to be exclusive harder especially if you have multiple great people that you're dating? If you've created a bond with more than one person at a time, I would assume cutting them all off and choosing one would be difficult. Unless you're in a situation where only one proves worthy and the others are mediocre. I don't know how my gal pal is able to handle it but I'm sure over time she will figure out what is best for her.
How do you ladies and gents go about dating? Do you date one person at a time or go on dates with several different people? How has either method worked for you?
Love & Light
Love & Light
